A few weeks ago, my 4 ½ year old was busy at the art
table. She was using tape and quietly
making something, though I couldn’t see around the corner exactly what it was. She came out several minutes later, and
presented me with a tissue. It was just
a plain tissue, except for the many beads scotch-taped to it. One piece of tape held down three beads, another
encased one bead and still another strained to hold four beads of varying sizes
in place. My daughter presented it to me
ceremoniously and announced, “It’s a God Cloth
“Oh! That’s very nice! Tell me more about it” I said
“It’s a God-Cloth.” She repeated, with some exasperation, “You
put it over your face to pray”. She demonstrated
by holding the bead-side over her face.
So, what do you do when your child hands you a God-cloth to
pray in?
You follow her directions and do it!
As parents who have hopes and dreams for your child’s faith
formation, you may feel time slipping quickly by and feel pressured by
well-meaning strangers and acquaintances telling you to “treasure every moment!”
However, trying to be, teach and ‘treasure’
every moment with your child is a tall order!
Here’s the good news (and you’re welcome to spread it): You DON’T have to treasure every moment. Just treasure the moments that are special to
you. You’ll know which ones they are –
the ones that make that little voice in your heart whisper, “stay, and listen!”
Trust your instinct, that you will notice these moments and sometimes just being
present and a witness to how important it is to your child is enough.
When I put the “God-Cloth” to my face at my daughter’s
request, I was participating with her in her wonderings about God. I didn’t have to supply answers on the
history of prayer aids or supply a specially-written “God-Cloth prayer”. I didn’t even have to save the God Cloth in
that case. She had moved on and the
tissue remained on the counter for a few days before it was filed away in the
trash. Our moment together was enough. Sometimes
the best faith lessons do not have words.
Just be yourself –know that you are enough – and be present
to your child around special moments that present themselves. At that time, take a brief break from
stirring mac & cheese, cleaning the toilet, planning out an event or
project or Pinterest-ing, and give them your full attention. Rather than try to make sense out of it, participate
in it with them first and be a witness to their wondering. Let them know that you will always listen to
them and let them explore their faith.
